In our book, Eight Essential Keys to Conscious Creative Living, we have a whole chapter on Community – our human need to be connected, engaged, and involved with others. COVID highlighted this for many of us – the isolation often felt brutal, lonely, and scary. But also in that isolation from the outside world, there were lots of COVID pregnancies that occurred – something was going on behind all those closed doors!
Now as it has become safer to move back into the world, it’s a good time to evaluate our relationships. Where are you now? How are your relationships doing?
Circumstances and priorities may have changed. We all want to be seen and acknowledged for who we are – and even in good relationships it takes work for that to occur mutually. The forced family intensity of COVID blew many marriages apart and strengthened others. There is currently a movement called Grey Divorce, where many women middle aged and older are claiming their independence and are happy to be structuring their lives on their own. Mid-life crises are confusing to many people who thought they were secure for a lifetime. The senior age group is the biggest bubble in our population – and way beyond the necessity of traditional marital values of past generations- having children to propagate the species, work the land, consolidate resources.
There’s a brave new world of companionship for seniors to create as they wish. We are hearing many stories that are both humorous and tragic. For example, patients with dementia in assisted living communities beginning affairs with new partners, no longer recognizing their existing partner when they come to visit. Adult children are horrified! No one quite knows how to mange this intrinsic need for connection that does not appear to dissolve with age.
And with this need for connection with ourselves and others, we’ve realized that this blog has never addressed the topic of “sex”. We are all sexual beings, so where are you with your own sexual needs? Are you pretty much done with sexual activity, are you wanting more, something new or a different kind of intimacy? We’re taking a leap here and venturing into a whole new area that bears some honest discussion about sexual connection, recognition and acknowledgement of our needs.
We’d love your feedback about this and if you’re interested in hearing more about this topic. After all, this blog is for you and assisting you in being your best self.
And, if you’ve got some specific questions about sexuality that you’d like us to address (all held in confidence, of course), just send us an email.
Ask yourself –
Are your relationships meeting your needs? Do you need more or less conversation, playtime, quiet time, touch?
Where and with who do you feel the most vital, the most YOU?
Are you comfortable with where you are with sex and intimacy now? Wanting less/more/more satisfying?
            Looking forward to hearing from you, and this week embrace all the parts of you that make you whole. Patty & Suzanne
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